Desperately Seeking Sugar Daddies

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That was the ugly, dehumanizing truth of the sugar dating world. A world where it becomes all too easy to forget that the person in front of you is actually a human being, with a story, feelings, emotions, desires, and fears just like everyone else. Many men reading this right now could be dating or in a relationship with a woman who is actively selling herself to rich men on the sly.

Since I was still a bit hesitant about how far I’d be willing to take my experiment, I signed up using the pseudonym Annabelle Walker. The site, which launched in 2006, has about 420,000 members, of which roughly one-third are sugar daddies and two-thirds are sugar babies (sugar mommies account for less than one percent). While sugar daddies pay $49.95 per month for a premium membership (or $1,200 a month for Diamond Club certification, which requires verification of one’s net worth through tax-return data), as a sugar baby I was able to join for free. I uploaded two photos and listed some general information about myself, and I stated “open, amount negotiable” in the space that asks what you’re looking for.

Is there a Seeking Arrangement app?

Three-month of premium membership cost $44.85, which reduces the monthly cost to $14.95. And finally, if you pay for a six-month subscription, one month will only cost you $9.95. So, we can safely state that SeekingArrangement services cost less than average in the market.

The site discourages any action that is associated with prostitution. As such, sugar babies are given allowances by their sugar daddies and are not paid on a “per meeting” basis. No. Members enter “arrangements” where they stipulate their deals and conditions before starting the relationship.

It was difficult to concede that I might be as much of a sucker for conventional wooing as the next girl, and frustrating to realize that I’d have to find another way to make a living. But it’s one thing to intellectualize something and quite another to live it. Teela Sanders, research director and professor of criminology at the University of Leicester in England, said young women work through services like SeekingArrangement in total isolation because they fear judgement, which can lead to negative mental health effects. She said she had consistent arrangements with several sugar daddies over summer break while at home in Minneapolis. While she enjoyed the consistency and felt trusted and respected in these arrangements, using SeekingArrangement sometimes negatively affected her mental health.

How long does it take to be approved on Seeking Arrangement?

24-48 hours

SeekingArrangement boasts four sugar babies for every one sugar daddy on the site, so men with paid subscriptions should have no trouble finding their ideal match on the site. SeekingArrangement is one of the most popular sugar dating websites in the world with over 13 million members and counting.

  • SFGate.com notes that Alix Tichelman would meet her alleged clients through Seeking Arrangement.
  • The world of Seeking Arrangement is highly complex and built on a network of controversial sentiments, but the industry is far more than just the stigma it carries.
  • Mind the location and the desired sum of allowance, as this is what really matters in a mutually beneficial relationship.
  • The vast majority of the “women” are fake either created by SA to sell memberships or men who pretend to be women.
  • Be totally yourself, and find an alluring partner who seeks the same sugar arrangement as yourself.
  • The man looks to be in his 50s.

But after losing her job, the extra debt proved more than she could afford. She took out $10,000 in loans to pay for a year of school and promptly went on the hunt for a sugar daddy. Earlier this spring, after Suzanne got fired from her job as a waitress at a diner on the Upper East Side, a girlfriend suggested she create a profile on Seeking Arrangement.

After two months she said, I don’t want money anymore, I just really enjoy getting to know you. It really told me she wasn’t looking for a long-term monetary benefit, and that you can have a real chemistry-laden relationship with someone.

The framing of Sugar Baby University as a sunny campus where students attend casting calls instead of class ignores the fact that sugar babies are working in order to earn money. In newspaper and magazine articles, and on the Seeking Arrangement website itself, there is a trend of vivid imagery, an invocation of the school fees, the books, the lab equipment sugar babies pay for with their sugar money. You can almost feel the weight of the textbooks they rush back to campus to buy. The Seeking Arrangement press kit includes a list of the schools with the most sugar babies and a pie chart detailing what sugar babies spend their money on.

Seeking Arrangement allows for “a lot more room to be yourself” and doesn’t leave much to interpretation. People are more self-aware and forthcoming and define the boundaries of the relationship right away. They know what they want, and they’ve come to Seeking Arrangement to get it. In her encounters, Emily has found that money is a way for sugar daddies to feel like they’re helping someone young to better their life — a kind of noble, philanthropic justification that eagerly anticipates the future success of the sugar baby they invested in. That’s the reason, she said, that sugar daddies are particularly interested in college students.

For some people, it’s simply the best way to start a relationship.

I couldn’t believe anything I was told. Like if I asked, Hey, if I’m not helping you financially, would you still want to see me? Of course they’d say yes, but there was no real way to understand if it was real. Absolutely. It was a really difficult thing to deal with.

But actually talking about money can be taboo. In many arrangements, money is discussed once and not brought up again.

How much does seeking arrangement cost?

How long does it take for my profile to be approved? Please be patient, photos and profiles enter the approval process in the order they were received. This usually takes 24-48 hours, however if the site is experiencing a high volume, this process may take longer.